Calming Down
When you are motivated by fear, you move through life propelled by what you don’t want. Fear of not having a job. Fear of being fat. Fear of being rejected. You spend as much time in worry as in action. You’ve sentenced yourself to rains of unpleasant fear-thinking. Your consciousness is centered in what you [...]
I’m passionate about the art of subtraction. Living better by subtracting. There are some fabulous bloggers who write about having less stuff and focusing on fewer tasks. That’s not my area of expertise. I think about subtracting in terms of the non-physical junk that clutters our lives: the shoulds, the people-pleasing, the settling. I call [...]
Good morning. It’s one of those mornings when everything has worked to enable me to be up and at the desk at 5am. Delicious. Many of you know this is my favorite time to write. It’s been an amazing few days for my writing, with my posts being published at some great blogs around the [...]
It’s not just you. Slowing down and emptying out is hard. There’s a lot of talk in the personal growth world about slowing down, simplifying, decluttering. I write a lot about this topic, about the importance of white space- the empty, open space and time in our lives. But there’s one thing I think I [...]
I know a lot of people who are running on over-drive. Somewhere along the way, life got too full, too busy, too cluttered, too rushed and frantic. The costs of this are high: Everything in life starts to feel shallow and incomplete We become short-tempered and unkind to spouses and children because “there is nothing [...]
1. Ask: As always, ask. Ask the universe, ask your higher self. Ask a divine power if you believe in one. Ask for help to get present. 2. Lay a Daily Foundation: Carve out three to five minutes at the beginning or the end of the day to just be present. Notice your breath, your [...]
When we really get present, every moment in life becomes a destination; nothing is just a step on the way to something else. Every activity is an ends in itself. We have to decide to value each moment for what it is, we have to act as if every moment is worthy of our full [...]
Many people misunderstand the concept of being present and assume that it means never planning for the future or learning from the past. Being in the present, they assume, is for people content to just hang out in there, smelling the roses, drinking martinis, and living moment to moment. Of course, this is not true. [...]
Hi blog readers! Over the next several days I’ll be posting a series of pieces about presence, living in the present, connecting with the now-ness of reality. Here is part 1. In our culture of extreme multi-tasking, in our new reality of living from beep to buzz to ring, most of us fail to live [...]
In our culture, when we talk about love, we typically talk about loving another person: I love Sonia. I love my grandfather. What do we mean by that? When we love others, we treat them with compassion, kindness, and patience. We perceive their gifts and beauties and power. We champion and affirm what is best [...]
